So Im so scared to date please tell me I’m not the only one. I’m 15 I have not had one bf especially at my school these dudes just want me for my body I do have a big butt and so many boys have touched me without constant😣 so going from that me and this boy had a lil thing with each other for like a while and he would walk me to my class and was super sweet to me and never tried to pull anything to try and touch me and was just really respectful to me. So my 2 boy bsf had gym with him and they told me he would talk bad about me and I’m like “really are sure” and they were like Yeah that he would talk to this other boy and just say a lot of inappropriate shit About if me and him were together and it was just weird bc he was always so respectful around and to me but after that i was low key disappointed bc I really thought he was different and I was talking to one of my friends in class and he told me some bull shit he said “that’s just how boys joke/are” and I’m like what if some one was talking about ur sister or mom like that he said “AW HELL NAH I WOULD FIGHT” And I told him ”but remember thats just how boys Joke“ and he stayed quie and that Comes back to I’m scared to date bc its like how Do i even trust bc I thought this boy was respectful but it was just a front and ik there not all the same but everyone I run into is the same and I don’t want to lower my expectations just cuz these boys don’t know how to act but I just need any advise yall can give me or y’all can tell me y’all story if yall can relate
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First things first, you are not alone. Honestly, don’t be ashamed that you haven’t dated anyone. It’s sad to say, that boys these days, in high school, are just so immature. Clearly, you want something real and these boys just aren’t going to give it to you. But that’s okay, because you should never lower your standards for boys that treat you like that. You're too good for this boy who tells you what you want to hear and then disrespects you when you aren’t around. So, my advice to you is, wait until you're ready. Wait until A MAN respects you in all aspects , whether he’s with you or not. Don’t waste your time on these little boys, trust me there’s plenty of other people that will meet YOUR standards and YOUR morals. Then you will know. Keep your head up beautiful!:)
I've been through the same thing I'm 13 and last year these boys in my class would talk nasty and dirty about me I never said anything caz I know they would denie it. Now that I think about it what do i have left nothing I'm gonna be honest this doesn't feel like its helping me out I talk about if and people respond but does it really help out not really I lost all my friends and I dont have no one to talk to I feel like I'm not worth anything I'm not worth anyone's breathe. So if you wanna talk just text me at 2109146125
Hey, Jasmine, I understand how you are feeling. And if you are scared then its because you still ain't ready to date. Don't rush anything just 4 months ago I honestly thought that I had already found the guy that I was gonna be with for a long time but apparently I was wrong. The first 2 months were really good he was such a gentleman to me, he was the one who motivated me whenever I would feel sad he would tell me words to keep going but then after that, I had a miscarriage and that's when he started acting differently. I had a guy friend that would always be telling me to break up with him, to leave, he was no good for me, and I never listened to him. Till he really beat me up really bad and decided to leave the relationship and just continue with my life. That same day I left his house I had posted on my Instagram story that I needed a ride back home and my friend was the first person to slide up and ask where I was? Who I was with & to send him the address of where I was even though he was mad at me. He went to pick me up and was crying asking me if I wanted to go to the hospital because I was bleeding from my nose, I had scratches all over my face and I was also bleeding from those scratches I kept saying no to him so he stopped talking to me on the way to his house. When we got to his house his mom cleaned my face and lend me some clothes. He was still mad at me but he said that he was happy now that I had got out that relationship. He started telling me how bad he felt cuz my boyfriend wouldn't me talk to any other guy but him and obviously my boy family members and the only time that we were able to talk was in school. Since that day I left my ex me and my friend have become best friends and are literally with each other every day. His family, my family, our friends ask us if we're ever going to date but we say that we don't know But one thing that I can say is that I am in love with him and I hope we can be something more than best friends one day but if it doesn't work out then it doesn't matter as long as I have him in my life. He has also told me that he does love me and also hopes one day we get to date but we are just trying to take everything slow and just going with the flow. Just let everything go with the flow and I promise you that one day the right guy will come for you 💕 add me on Instagram i can give you more advice on there @xo._arleth
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i understand how you feel. I’m 14 and I had my first relationship at 11?I was definitely not as mature as I am now and wish I would have waited to date him. I have had guys touching my butt too w/out my consent but I’m a type of girl who speaks her mind so whenever a guy would do it, he for sure didn’t do it again bc I don’t play w that sorta thing.
Its scary to trust. Before I get into a relationship I make sure to text the guy first. Get to know him. Take about 2-3 months and then we can start a relationship. if a guy doesn’t agree then you know he’s not right bc he’s trying to speed things up. Trust me, I wish I would’ve done this w my first bf. If a guy truly wants you for you, he would take his time to text you. No matter how long. It’s high school, 95% of the boys just want you for your body but trust me when I say this, that 5% out there, your guy is in there. Yes, maybe it will take a couple of guys to find that out. Trust me when I say though, every tear you shed, every time you listen to a sad song, every sad Thought bc he wasn’t the one, you grow stronger!
Get to know him First. He plays you? Yeah, you’ll be upset. But what did he lose? A girl who was caring for him non stop? Luv, he doesnt know what he lost. 💗
hun, just remember, A guy is lucky to be in a relationship. Dont ever take yourself for granted. 💗
Hey love, there’s a lot to learn about boys but at this age they are still very immature. Don’t rush into things with anyone because they may not be serious Since they are still young and don’t know what they want. Since your young you’re all learning so its okay to make mistakes. Just take things slow and observe. If you want to talk more let me know!!
I agree with everything Quinzel said unfortunately all boys in high school are Immature tbh we all are in high school. We’re finding ourselves like if we’re going to continue our education (which everyone should I highly encourage it), what sexuality you’re comfortable with, enlist in the military , just work a 9 to 5 job for the rest of our life, get married have a family, sometimes life in high school takes a whole different path or does a full 360 on you where you gotta change your plans you had. Also you might just stay single for a long time, that’s honestly okay because the longer you love yourself you’ll be able to love another person when the time is right. Another thing high school is full of is peer pressure geez....Im very fortunate to have had friends that were already having sex tell me it wasn’t good they wished they waited longer or Especially if they weren’t that informed about using protection the right way and ended up pregnant they’d tell me don’t do it! You’ll end up like me.
Girl you will have “friends” I quotation mark the words “friends” cause there will be people you think are your friends who will peer pressure you to have sex “cause its right and makes you feel good“ 😒🙄 don’t let them tear you down or bully you about keeping your flower card that “your a virgin and that makes you dumb or lame etc” those arnt real friends at all. If keeping your flower card is apart of your religion to wait till marriage then that’s fine too no one can knock that, just remember in the end it’s your body! 😊
You will only know when the time is right with the right person and if that person you thought was the right one, ends up showing their true colors after that it’s ok they’ll be others that appreciate you for you and not whats in between your legs.
For example when I lost my flower card to my ex boyfriend at 18 he said he’d stay with me, I was his first as well, marry me and we’ll live happily ever after girl he brought down all the moon and stars for me. Then he started changing after that and we broke up. I was heart broken but I healed up which took a while and then I was fine. Back to the Immaturity talk some boys grow up to be mature responsible men who get their stuff together some faster than others, then the others just grow up and stay immature if that makes sense leeching off of ppl, lazy don’t work or clean up, etc just bad.
Same with women I gotta say there’s the ones that grow up get on the ball some a lil faster than others, then there the ones that just stay there lazy etc.
Like Quinzel said your still young 15 years old! :) and have the rest of your life ahead of you no need to worry about boys right now they do bring problems especially high school boys 🙄🤣. I learned from that and other experiences I’m 28 yrs old so I’m sure I know what I’m talking about. I don’t know everything cause I’m still learning from other things myself I do want to share my experiences too to help others.
Just keep your head up, stay with a positive mind always. ❤️
Hey Jasmin , I can relate guys these days are very disrespectful they treate us like we're some sort of toys.
15 your very young still hun and I say this alot because us young females always want a guy to make us feel happy or because everyone else has a boyfriend.
You have a long way to go hun be patient and live your life having a boyfriend brings to much problems in life. This is my advice to you and from my point of view. At the end of the day it's your road to take love.
A right man we'll come just not that fast you have to be patient. In the mean time focus on you . Learn to love yourself before loving a boy see your worth. This is all so new to you you've never been in a relationship and your scared I don't blame you.
It's scary getting in to a relationship all boys want is sex. There's good men out there he's just hiding right now. I was around your age when I started having "serious" relationships and on top of that I was going thru things.
It's hard getting through life when Everytime you want to be happy with a boy he ends up braking your heart I didn't realize tell later on that I didn't need a boy to make me happy.
It's sad that we have to find out the hard way when people try helping us but where so stubborn and we rush life fall on our face and get hurt but at the end of the day you learn and experience .
Live your life Mama's no boy needs to be braking your heart be patient okay time we'll come were all here for you and we well try our best to help you. Crown up always even when you feel like you can't put up anymore. 💛