So Im so scared to date please tell me Iām not the only one. Iām 15 I have not had one bf especially at my school these dudes just want me for my body I do have a big butt and so many boys have touched me without constantš£ so going from that me and this boy had a lil thing with each other for like a while and he would walk me to my class and was super sweet to me and never tried to pull anything to try and touch me and was just really respectful to me. So my 2 boy bsf had gym with him and they told me he would talk bad about me and Iām like āreally are sureā and they were like Yeah that he would talk to this other boy and just say a lot of inappropriate shit About if me and him were together and it was just weird bc he was always so respectful around and to me but after that i was low key disappointed bc I really thought he was different and I was talking to one of my friends in class and he told me some bull shit he said āthatās just how boys joke/areā and Iām like what if some one was talking about ur sister or mom like that he said āAW HELL NAH I WOULD FIGHTā And I told him ābut remember thats just how boys Jokeā and he stayed quie and that Comes back to Iām scared to date bc its like how Do i even trust bc I thought this boy was respectful but it was just a front and ik there not all the same but everyone I run into is the same and I donāt want to lower my expectations just cuz these boys donāt know how to act but I just need any advise yall can give me or yāall can tell me yāall story if yall can relate
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Jul 10, 2020
Scared to date help
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Hey Jasmin , I can relate guys these days are very disrespectful they treate us like we're some sort of toys.
15 your very young still hun and I say this alot because us young females always want a guy to make us feel happy or because everyone else has a boyfriend.
You have a long way to go hun be patient and live your life having a boyfriend brings to much problems in life. This is my advice to you and from my point of view. At the end of the day it's your road to take love.
A right man we'll come just not that fast you have to be patient. In the mean time focus on you . Learn to love yourself before loving a boy see your worth. This is all so new to you you've never been in a relationship and your scared I don't blame you.
It's scary getting in to a relationship all boys want is sex. There's good men out there he's just hiding right now. I was around your age when I started having "serious" relationships and on top of that I was going thru things.
It's hard getting through life when Everytime you want to be happy with a boy he ends up braking your heart I didn't realize tell later on that I didn't need a boy to make me happy.
It's sad that we have to find out the hard way when people try helping us but where so stubborn and we rush life fall on our face and get hurt but at the end of the day you learn and experience .
Live your life Mama's no boy needs to be braking your heart be patient okay time we'll come were all here for you and we well try our best to help you. Crown up always even when you feel like you can't put up anymore. š
I agree with everything Quinzel said unfortunately all boys in high school are Immature tbh we all are in high school. Weāre finding ourselves like if weāre going to continue our education (which everyone should I highly encourage it), what sexuality youāre comfortable with, enlist in the military , just work a 9 to 5 job for the rest of our life, get married have a family, sometimes life in high school takes a whole different path or does a full 360 on you where you gotta change your plans you had. Also you might just stay single for a long time, thatās honestly okay because the longer you love yourself youāll be able to love another person when the time is right. Another thing high school is full of is peer pressure geez....Im very fortunate to have had friends that were already having sex tell me it wasnāt good they wished they waited longer or Especially if they werenāt that informed about using protection the right way and ended up pregnant theyād tell me donāt do it! Youāll end up like me.
Girl you will have āfriendsā I quotation mark the words āfriendsā cause there will be people you think are your friends who will peer pressure you to have sex ācause its right and makes you feel goodā šš donāt let them tear you down or bully you about keeping your flower card that āyour a virgin and that makes you dumb or lame etcā those arnt real friends at all. If keeping your flower card is apart of your religion to wait till marriage then thatās fine too no one can knock that, just remember in the end itās your body! š
You will only know when the time is right with the right person and if that person you thought was the right one, ends up showing their true colors after that itās ok theyāll be others that appreciate you for you and not whats in between your legs.
For example when I lost my flower card to my ex boyfriend at 18 he said heād stay with me, I was his first as well, marry me and weāll live happily ever after girl he brought down all the moon and stars for me. Then he started changing after that and we broke up. I was heart broken but I healed up which took a while and then I was fine. Back to the Immaturity talk some boys grow up to be mature responsible men who get their stuff together some faster than others, then the others just grow up and stay immature if that makes sense leeching off of ppl, lazy donāt work or clean up, etc just bad.
Same with women I gotta say thereās the ones that grow up get on the ball some a lil faster than others, then there the ones that just stay there lazy etc.
Like Quinzel said your still young 15 years old! :) and have the rest of your life ahead of you no need to worry about boys right now they do bring problems especially high school boys šš¤£. I learned from that and other experiences Iām 28 yrs old so Iām sure I know what Iām talking about. I donāt know everything cause Iām still learning from other things myself I do want to share my experiences too to help others.
Just keep your head up, stay with a positive mind always. ā¤ļø
Preach šš»šš»@HilaM. You said everything I left out so much important facts. But jasmine this from our point of you again it's your road to take.
We give advice because we know how it went for us maybe it might be different from you. We just want to help others so they don't go what we went through. My dream is to help young females like you I don't want any of you going through what I did I don't wish that on anyone.
This generation and society just has everyone by the throut it's so sad seeing you young females get hurt some females and even men/boys take there life away for a boy or girl.
I will never forget what a guy said in some classes I took he said that sometimes his friends peer pressure him to be an asshole. Some guys have feelings and want to have deep convos but there "friends" laugh and call it "gay". It's not just females it's also boys that's why they act like they do.
You'll find your Romeo love just wait tell he finds you šdon't let what we say either make you even more afraid were just looking out for you.
Hey love, thereās a lot to learn about boys but at this age they are still very immature. Donāt rush into things with anyone because they may not be serious Since they are still young and donāt know what they want. Since your young youāre all learning so its okay to make mistakes. Just take things slow and observe. If you want to talk more let me know!!
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i understand how you feel. Iām 14 and I had my first relationship at 11?I was definitely not as mature as I am now and wish I would have waited to date him. I have had guys touching my butt too w/out my consent but Iām a type of girl who speaks her mind so whenever a guy would do it, he for sure didnāt do it again bc I donāt play w that sorta thing.
Its scary to trust. Before I get into a relationship I make sure to text the guy first. Get to know him. Take about 2-3 months and then we can start a relationship. if a guy doesnāt agree then you know heās not right bc heās trying to speed things up. Trust me, I wish I wouldāve done this w my first bf. If a guy truly wants you for you, he would take his time to text you. No matter how long. Itās high school, 95% of the boys just want you for your body but trust me when I say this, that 5% out there, your guy is in there. Yes, maybe it will take a couple of guys to find that out. Trust me when I say though, every tear you shed, every time you listen to a sad song, every sad Thought bc he wasnāt the one, you grow stronger!
Get to know him First. He plays you? Yeah, youāll be upset. But what did he lose? A girl who was caring for him non stop? Luv, he doesnt know what he lost. š
hun, just remember, A guy is lucky to be in a relationship. Dont ever take yourself for granted. š
Hey, Jasmine, I understand how you are feeling. And if you are scared then its because you still ain't ready to date. Don't rush anything just 4 months ago I honestly thought that I had already found the guy that I was gonna be with for a long time but apparently I was wrong. The first 2 months were really good he was such a gentleman to me, he was the one who motivated me whenever I would feel sad he would tell me words to keep going but then after that, I had a miscarriage and that's when he started acting differently. I had a guy friend that would always be telling me to break up with him, to leave, he was no good for me, and I never listened to him. Till he really beat me up really bad and decided to leave the relationship and just continue with my life. That same day I left his house I had posted on my Instagram story that I needed a ride back home and my friend was the first person to slide up and ask where I was? Who I was with & to send him the address of where I was even though he was mad at me. He went to pick me up and was crying asking me if I wanted to go to the hospital because I was bleeding from my nose, I had scratches all over my face and I was also bleeding from those scratches I kept saying no to him so he stopped talking to me on the way to his house. When we got to his house his mom cleaned my face and lend me some clothes. He was still mad at me but he said that he was happy now that I had got out that relationship. He started telling me how bad he felt cuz my boyfriend wouldn't me talk to any other guy but him and obviously my boy family members and the only time that we were able to talk was in school. Since that day I left my ex me and my friend have become best friends and are literally with each other every day. His family, my family, our friends ask us if we're ever going to date but we say that we don't know But one thing that I can say is that I am in love with him and I hope we can be something more than best friends one day but if it doesn't work out then it doesn't matter as long as I have him in my life. He has also told me that he does love me and also hopes one day we get to date but we are just trying to take everything slow and just going with the flow. Just let everything go with the flow and I promise you that one day the right guy will come for you š add me on Instagram i can give you more advice on there @xo._arleth