Hi I’m 28 yrs old and I was in a abusive emotionally, mentally and unfortunately physical relationship from 2012 to 2015 (I was in this from 19 yrs old to 22 yrs old). It was all good for a year and a half then it got bad. From the get go I wasn’t allowed to talk or see my family, friends and if I did he had to “approve it” he had control of what I did, said, or what I saw especially my social media account and I let him cause I “loved him” 🙄. When it came to looking at his things he blew a fuse and would say horrible stuff to me and accuse me of things. I would have to fight back physically sometimes to defend myself when we’d get into arguments. He was cheating on me with 3 of his ex’s possibly even more who knows and I was in denial that they were just “friends” or “his sisters cause they were so close” cause that’s what he said. We had a vehicle apartment and dog together which he hardly helped me pay for cause he hated working and if he’s get a job he’d work a week or 2 and quit. I was working so much pulling doubles constantly I hardly had time to think about myself or anything else I just was thinking about if I will make enough to pay bills. I lost our baby due to stress and just over working myself, which I had no clue I was pregnant with to be honest. He blamed me for it said I knew and called me all the names in the book. My final straw to leave him was when I lost my job cause I fell into depression to want to work right after loosing the baby cause I believed it was my fault like he said. We lost the apartment, we only had the truck and dog we moved in with his sister that’s when I said to myself, lI have to leave f**k this low life dude“. So I called my mom she picked me up with my stuff and I left. My family took me back despite everything I put them through, I promised to not do it again or talk to him and I’ve kept my promise. When I think about my loss with the baby was for a reason, the baby and I would’ve been stuck going through hell with my ex whether I would’ve been with him or not. I’m aware that some girls that do end up having the baby stay in touch with the baby dad or not depending on the situation and go through so much I know from experience from what my mom went through with my bio dad.
Oh back to the story the dog she is with a family who loves her. She was torn up about the split up between my ex and I she wasnt eating at all or herself. He had dropped her off to me I couldn’t afford her at the time since I was jobless. So I knew the hard breaking thing for me to do was find her a good loving home for her and I did.
Also feel free to ask me anything just remember it’s up to you to take my advice I don’t want anyone to feel forced to listen to me. I just love helping people ❤️
Thank you and no problem I was honestly nervous on sharing but I took it as it could help someone recognize red flags 🚩 that could be happening in their lives.
Hey love, you are so strong. Happy your out of that toxic relationship. Thank You for sharing.
Your welcome 💛😊
Thank you 😊 I appreciate you
I'm so proud of you girly ! I know how you feel I'm so glad your happy now and just living life !
I feel you on that so much I found myself a keeper as well there is good people out there we just to wait and be patient. God always does things for a reason.
Noone is perfect but we can always have a little perfect I'm so happy for you !
Keep the postive engery going love ! I wish the best for you and your boo😊I'm here if anything you got this always 💛
Thanks so much for reading my story❤️ it took so much out of me to get up and leave instead of just saying it countless times that I did. I do believe in God and that he puts us through trials for a reason in life. I know my sweet angel baby is watching over me I always pray for him/her day and night. I went to therapy when I got out that toxic relationship then in Jan 2016 my grandmother passed I went into a deeper depression if you know what I mean I asked God to send me someone who can distract my mind and help me through it all. That’s when my now boyfriend of 4 yrs came into the pic he commented to my post on Facebook (when I had my social media accounts) he said he was here for me if I needed to talk and it went up from there 😊 I’m very grateful of him I always tell him that. He treats me so well Quinzel Doe I never thought there was people like him out there Im honestly happy to have him in my life. Of course our relationship isn’t perfect at all but communicating and trust has been our main thing it’s helped a lot.
Props yo 👏🏻👏🏻there is so much amazing females on here and your one of them !
I'm so proud of you for leaving that boy it took you some time and that's okay! You relaized most woman don't and it's very sad .
Now you can help and share your story with young woman or with others in general. That was such a big step and honestly again I'm so proud of you!
I'm glad the dog is with a good family now I bet she well never forget the love you have her ♥️. Family will always be family regardless of how things ended that's family and it's the strongest of them all!
You are still so young ! So take this time and love yourself see your worth and keep helping others like you are ! I know this story well help alot of us out. In this generation we think that we need a boy to make us happy and that's just not it.
God always does things for a reason he puts you through it because he knows you can get out of it. Your baby well always be with you and when the time is just right you have a family of your own. Just takes time. Keep doing you and keep loving your self baby girl 👏🏻💗
God bless and thank you always here if you need anything even if your a older I'll still try to help 😊 Always have that crown up even when it's about to fall have a wonderful day!💛( Never balme yourself for your mistakes they happen for a reason and now is now and yesterday was yesterday)