Hi I’m 28 yrs old and I was in a abusive emotionally, mentally and unfortunately physical relationship from 2012 to 2015 (I was in this from 19 yrs old to 22 yrs old). It was all good for a year and a half then it got bad. From the get go I wasn’t allowed to talk or see my family, friends and if I did he had to “approve it” he had control of what I did, said, or what I saw especially my social media account and I let him cause I “loved him” 🙄. When it came to looking at his things he blew a fuse and would say horrible stuff to me and accuse me of things. I would have to fight back physically sometimes to defend myself when we’d get into arguments. He was cheating on me with 3 of his ex’s possibly even more who knows and I was in denial that they were just “friends” or “his sisters cause they were so close” cause that’s what he said. We had a vehicle apartment and dog together which he hardly helped me pay for cause he hated working and if he’s get a job he’d work a week or 2 and quit. I was working so much pulling doubles constantly I hardly had time to think about myself or anything else I just was thinking about if I will make enough to pay bills. I lost our baby due to stress and just over working myself, which I had no clue I was pregnant with to be honest. He blamed me for it said I knew and called me all the names in the book. My final straw to leave him was when I lost my job cause I fell into depression to want to work right after loosing the baby cause I believed it was my fault like he said. We lost the apartment, we only had the truck and dog we moved in with his sister that’s when I said to myself, lI have to leave f**k this low life dude“. So I called my mom she picked me up with my stuff and I left. My family took me back despite everything I put them through, I promised to not do it again or talk to him and I’ve kept my promise. When I think about my loss with the baby was for a reason, the baby and I would’ve been stuck going through hell with my ex whether I would’ve been with him or not. I’m aware that some girls that do end up having the baby stay in touch with the baby dad or not depending on the situation and go through so much I know from experience from what my mom went through with my bio dad.
Oh back to the story the dog she is with a family who loves her. She was torn up about the split up between my ex and I she wasnt eating at all or herself. He had dropped her off to me I couldn’t afford her at the time since I was jobless. So I knew the hard breaking thing for me to do was find her a good loving home for her and I did.
Also feel free to ask me anything just remember it’s up to you to take my advice I don’t want anyone to feel forced to listen to me. I just love helping people ❤️